After almost 7 years of freelance work, I started a full time job back in February. I think I shocked quite a few people when that happened, myself included. But after five months of this change, I can confidently say that becoming a out of house working mom was the best decision I could’ve made.
I’m not fit to be a stay-at-home mom.
Being a SAHM is truly a special job, and I was lucky to have lived it for over two years. While I wouldn’t trade the time I got to spend with my daughter for anything in the world, I found my patience wearing thin on most days and my brain felt like it was melting from lack of adult interaction.
Now that I’m working full time outside of the house, I’ve found myself less stressed. And happier when I come home and get to spend those precious few hours with my daughter and husband. Quality over quantity is what works for us.
My daughter is flourishing at daycare
She is learning things that I wouldn’t have taught her on my own, both because I don’t know much of anything about educating kids and from pure exhaustion from chasing a toddler around all day. She got bored at home a lot, now she stays busy at daycare all day and she loves it.
I don’t feel that I am losing an important part of myself.
I have been a passionate and driven person my whole life. I set goals and I make plans to reach those goals. It’s such a big part of my personality and what keeps me going.
Being a SAHM was causing me to feel as if I was losing that part of myself. Even though I was still doing freelance design & photography work, having to balance both work and taking care of a child wasn’t working for me.
I didn’t want my career to stall while my kids were young, and then have to start my career again when the kids are ready to go to elementary school. A bit selfish on my end? Maybe. But being a working mom is what’s best for my mental health, and I’m a strong believer that if Mommy isn’t happy, the rest of the family won’t be either.